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Hope, Help and Healing: Week 4

Day 1
New relationships

In the Bible

And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19

Your Father knows what you need before you ask him. Matthew 6:8

1. Whom do you think knows best what you need—you or God? Why?

2. Sometimes a new relationship may seem wise to you, but in the long run, it is too soon to be making that decision. What discussions have you had with God about the wisdom of a new relationship?

In your life

1. What do you need, and what do you desire?

2. Who is best able to meet your needs and desires in a way that would fill you completely and bring you peace and joy at the same time?

Day 2
Whole, loved and joyful

In the Bible

“For your Maker is your husband—the LORD Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. The LORD will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit—a wife who married young, only to be rejected,” says your God. Isaiah 54:5–6

But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God; I trust in God’s unfailing love for ever and ever. Psalm 52:8

1. What does a married person (in a healthy marriage) receive from his or her spouse?

2. Which of those items can God provide for you? Have you asked Him to provide for your needs?

3. According to Psalm 52 above, how can your life flourish (thrive, prosper, grow)?*

In your life

1. Can you feel whole, loved and joyful without being in a new relationship?

2. How does a person become whole, feel loved and have a joy-filled life without a new relationship?

* In order for your life to truly flourish, you must have a relationship with God and surrender your life to Him. The Foundation for Healing explains how this is true.

Day 3
Slow down

In the Bible

Slow down. Take a deep breath. What’s the hurry? Why wear yourself out? Just what are you after anyway? Jeremiah 2:25 Msg

1. Since the separation or divorce, which areas of your life have you been trying to either rush through or rush toward?

2. How often have you discussed these areas with God?

3. Take a moment to slow down, talk with God and then quietly listen.

In your life

1. Have you been moving toward or into a new relationship since the divorce?

2. How long would you be willing to set that aside and focus instead on personal growth, peace and wholeness as a single person?*

3. Which areas of your life could you stand to grow in wisdom? Think of emotional, physical, spiritual, mental and financial aspects.

* A DivorceCare group will help you discover your purpose, experience growth and walk in wisdom, strength and joy.

Day 4
Sexual temptation

In the Bible

Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? Proverbs 6:27–28

God wants you to live a pure life. Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity. Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body, not abusing it, as is so common among those who know nothing of God.
1 Thessalonians 4:3–5 Msg

1. What are you doing that shows you respect your body?

2. What are you doing that is abusive or disrespectful to your body?

3. What does God want you to choose for your body each day?

In your life

1. What limits will you set today in regard to sex? Pray about and write your commitment here.

2. What can you do to ensure that you follow through with this commitment? Think of practical ideas that will keep you away from tempting situations.

Day 5
Is a new relationship what you really need right now?

In the Bible

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. 1 Peter 5:10

Deep in my heart I say, “The LORD is all I need; I can depend on him!” Lamentations 3:24 CEV

1. According to the verse in 1 Peter above, what will God do for you through your suffering?

2. Read the verse from Lamentations out loud. Can you truly declare this with the author? If not, pray that God will make this clear to you. (We also suggest you write this verse on an index card and carry it with you.)

In your life

1. Can another person truly make you strong, firm and steadfast? When have you been guilty of thinking this in a relationship?

2. Take a moment to think about the direction of your life, your heart, your needs and desires. What can you do to ensure you are walking on a forward, healthy, wise path each day?

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