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Hope, Help and Healing: Week 3

Day 1

In the Bible

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

For as churning the milk produces butter, and as twisting the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife. Proverbs 30:33

A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. Proverbs 29:11

1. When someone is angry toward you, how do you typically respond? What happens when you respond that way?

2. According to the verses above, how does God want you to respond in the face of anger?

In your life

1. What types of things have you done that resulted in anger being stirred up?

2. Name everyone who has been hurt as a result of your anger.

3. Write a prayer here about your anger and your responses to other people’s anger. Ask God for help, guidance and forgiveness in this matter.

Day 2
Pressure, trials and despair

In the Bible

We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, as you help us by your prayers. 2 Corinthians 1:8–11

1. Which parts of the above passage can you relate to?

2. What does the author (Paul) say he learned from his trials?

3. What kind of help does Paul seek from other people?

In your life

1. Whom have you asked to pray for you or to pray with you?*

2. Describe your level of confidence in God to deliver you, just as He did Paul.

* Prayer support is a crucial part of your healing. Ask others to support you through their prayers. Let them know specific things to pray for. At a DivorceCare group, you will receive prayer support, as well as have the opportunity to support others.

Day 3
You are never alone

In the Bible

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior. Isaiah 43:2–3

1. Who is with you always, no matter what your circumstances?

2. According to the passage above, how much does God love you?

In your life

1. At what times do you feel most alone?

2. Even though you may feel God is far from you, the Bible assures us He is near. When have you felt closest to God since your separation or divorce?

3. When have you felt farthest from God? Why do you think this is?

Day 4

In the Bible

He [Jesus] began to be sorrowful and troubled. Then he said … “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.” Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.” Matthew 26:37–39

1. Which part of the above passage strikes you the most? Why?

2. What does Jesus do in response to his intense emotions?

In your life

1. At what times is your depression most overwhelming?

2. Many times in divorce, other people cannot relate to your feelings, your low energy, your lack of focus and the myriad of other divorce-related difficulties you face. How is Jesus different?

3. Feeling depressed is not necessarily a bad thing, but rather an honest response to your situation. What can you do differently to ensure that you do not get stuck in depression?

Day 5
A prayer for you

In the Bible

I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Ephesians 3:16–19

1. Pray the prayer above for yourself, substituting “me” for “you.” Read it out loud with confidence!

2. According to this passage, how much does Jesus Christ love you?

In your life

1. People in divorce often feel an emptiness or a hole inside. What does God promise in the last line of the above passage?

2. Does Christ dwell in your heart? If He does not, explain how His absence could be contributing to your loneliness.*

* The Foundation for Healing explains how Jesus Christ can dwell in your heart.

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