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Hope, Help and Healing: Week 1

Day 1
Intense emotions of separation and divorce

In the Bible

I am worn out from groaning; all night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears. My eyes grow weak with sorrow; they fail because of all my foes. Away from me, all you who do evil, for the LORD has heard my weeping. The LORD has heard my cry for mercy; the LORD accepts my prayer. Psalm 6:6–9

1. Whom does the author (King David) cry out to in his deep sorrow and pain?

2. Sometimes other people do not understand the intense emotions of divorce. How is God different in this respect?

In your life

1. King David expressed his emotions with groaning, weeping, tears, cries and prayers. How do you express your emotions?

2. Name everyone you express your emotions with.

3. How often do you cry out to God?

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Day 2
The source of strength

In the Bible

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6

1. The strength and courage advised in this verse does not originate in you. What is its source?

2. Which areas of your life have you been trying to be strong using your own strength?

3. Why doesn’t it work?

In your life

1. Since the separation or divorce, what fears do you have?

Day 3
Rescue, security and honor

In the Bible

“Because he loves me,” says the LORD, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.” Psalm 91:14–15

1. What does God promise in this passage?

2. In light of your current situation, which promise is most comforting to you?

In your life

1. According to the Bible passage above, what do you need to do to receive God’s promises?

2. Which of those actions do you find most difficult to do?

3. What can you do to remedy that?

Day 4
Low energy level?

In the Bible

Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Isaiah 40:30–31

1. Which words in the verses above describe you right now?

2. Who or what is the source of renewed strength?

In your life

1. How has your energy level changed since the separation or divorce?

2. What saps your energy?

3. How can you tap into the energy God is promising you in the verse above?

Day 5
Which way to go? Whom to trust?

In the Bible

Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you [God]. Show me the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul. Psalm 143:8

1. What does the author (King David) of this verse expect as a result of putting his trust in God?

2. When you do not know which way to go, whom should you turn to first?

In your life

1. In the past, what things have you trusted in that ended up not being trustworthy?

2. What do you think about trusting God?*

* The Foundation for Healing describes what it means to trust God and how to go about trusting Him.

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